How to Use Bondage Gear for Beginners: A Guide

Did you know that 69% of people say they’ve either fantasized or actually performed BDSM? “BDSM” stands for bondage/discipline, domination/submission, sadism, and masochism. In other words, it’s anything but vanilla!

Yet, despite the fact that BDSM isn’t very mainstream, as you can see, many of us are interested in it. For instance, many couples might choose to dabble in some bondage to begin with.

The world of BDSM can be overwhelming though. Where do you even start?

Read on to find out how to use bondage gear with your partner!

Restraints

In the world of bondage, one of the main things you’ll need is restraints. The sex toy world is quite creative when it comes to restraints, and when you look at some of the gear, you might be scratching your head at times.

Here are some of the common restraints you’ll find for bondage gear.

Cuffs and Straps

These are pretty straightforward to use and fantastic if you’re looking for leather bondage gear, as most are made of this material.

To put the cuffs on, simply loosen them and put them on your wrists and/or ankles. Tighten the cuff until you aren’t able to get out of them, then secure them with the buckle.

You can then attach straps to the cuffs and then attach the straps themselves onto a sturdy object, such as the bed. There are also straps that can go under your bed and use the weight of the mattress to keep the person firmly in place.

Bondage Tape

Bondage tape is also very easy to use. It looks like masking tape, but don’t worry, as it’s gentle on your skin and hair!

All you have to do is get a strip and use your imagination to restrain your partner. You can tape their wrists or ankles together, or give them a little more freedom by taping just their arms down.

What’s great about bondage tape is it’s quick and easy to use. In addition, you can reuse the strips if you’re careful!

Bondage Rope

You’ll often see bondage rope under the name shibari rope. Shibari is actually an ancient Japanese rope bondage practice, and it’s quite artistic when you see what people can come up with.

It differs a bit from Western bondage in that it’s not used as a form of foreplay. Shibari is the main act here.

Whether you choose to practice Western or Japanese bondage, bondage rope can always come in handy. It’s not really meant for beginners, so you’ll want to be more familiar with bondage before you dive into Shibari.

It’s also worth studying up on knots and tying methods that are sturdy yet comfortable. You don’t want to cut off your partner’s circulation, after all.

Ball Gags

Ball gags are some of the best bondage gear to use since they’re visually appealing while restraining your partner. They’re made of a leather strap that goes around your head and is secured by a buckle. A silicone ball in the middle of the strap goes in your mouth.

The ball will keep your mouth open and prevent you from speaking. However, it won’t prevent you from moaning, so you can still have some sensual audio stimulation.

Bit Gags

Bit gags are similar to ball gags but instead of a ball in the middle, you get a flatter and longer silicone piece. This allows you to bite down on it during play. It’s also easier to speak and breathe with a bit gag.

Wearables

For men’s bondage gear and/or gay bondage gear, you’ve probably seen harnesses, as well as collars. But there are also wearables that are made for women!

Either way, these are made of straps of leather held together with studs and D-rings or O-rings. Not only do they provide excellent aesthetics in bed, but they also provide points of attachment for leashes and other restraints.

For collars, you’ll wrap the leather around your neck and secure it with buttons in the back. As for body harnesses, some have a collar piece up top so you’ll have to fasten that before putting on the rest of the body harness. Otherwise, there are arm and leg holes, so you can put the harnesses on like pieces of clothing.

Blindfolds

You don’t always have to buy a blindfold; you can get creative and find a scarf, tie, or another piece of cloth to tie around your partner’s head to block their sight.

A commonly used household item is a sleep mask. It’ll fit perfectly since you just put it on as normal, as if you were going to bed.

You can also use bondage tape. Just cut an extra-long piece, then tape it around your partner’s eyes and head.

Hoods

If you want to get into the more hardcore side of sensory deprivation, you’ll want to opt for hoods instead of blindfolds. These will go over your entire head and the most extreme ones will cover everything but your nose. As a result, your other senses will be heightened.

By opting for latex bondage gear here, you can combine bondage with a latex fetish if you wish.

Spice up Your Sex Life With Some Bondage Gear

After reading this article, you might’ve realized that bondage gear isn’t all that scary. If you know what to look for and how to use it, bondage won’t be such a daunting thing to try. Instead, it’ll be an exciting new adventure you and your partner can embark on!

Just make sure to take your time finding the right gear for your tastes and needs. Once you find some quality pieces, you won’t need to go shopping again for a while.

If you’re ready to start experimenting with bondage, visit a New Fine Arts location near you!