A 2018 survey of more than 2,000 American adults revealed that over a third of people have at least one specific fetish.
However, it is still a subject with an attached stigma. So much so that many people are afraid to speak out and potentially experience something new.
Whether looking to spice things up in the bedroom or totally new to the world of kink, there is something for everyone.
Let’s take a look at some of the most common fetishes.
What Are the Most Common Fetishes?
A fetish is usually something without which a person cannot become aroused. Similarly, it can refer to the feeling of arousal in the face on a non-sexual object.
The word fetish may bring up sordid imagery but in fact, fetishes are often normal sexual experiences that can include:
- A focus on certain body parts
- Edging or orgasm control
- Voyeurism or the need to watch
- Bringing toys into the bedroom
When looking state by state, there are some interesting results for the most common fetish type. For example, group sex and sports gear seem to be quite popular, as opposed to edge play and humiliation that are far less so.
So what types of fetishes should you know about?
1. Role Play
Role play involves acting out a fantasy with your partner. Popular examples include doctor-play or school-girl play.
Typically, role-playing will focus on characters that are outside of your normal life.
This fetish can be considered a kink and just a fun way to switch things up. However, for some, they cannot get aroused without it.
2. Anal Sex
Anal sex can be a normal part of your sex life. Though for some, it is the only way they can achieve orgasm.
It can be anything from inserting a finger, full penetrative sex, or the use of butt plugs.
Before considering anal sex for the first time, speak with your partner and purchase lube, as the area is not self-lubricating. Take it slow and communicate if you are uncomfortable.
If you are nervous to try, CBD oil has been proven to help to help with anxiety, strengthen sensations, and enhance foreplay.
3. Impact Play and BDSM
From various forms of striking and breath-play to restraint and domination, this has become more popular in recent years.
Starting with your hand is advised, to be sure it is wanted by both parties. Moving up to whips and paddles should be done with clear communication and trust.
When restraining your partner, as with all power-play, it is important to establish ground rules and a safe word. This safe word will stop all activity at once, should anyone feel unsafe or unwilling to continue.
4. Group Sex
Group sex involves more than just yourself and your partner. It can mean one more consensual adult or a number of them.
Orgies and sex parties can be arranged at someone’s home or found in sex clubs. They can be great for exploring your fantasies or just watching.
Before participating, make sure that you are being safe, and know the rules. From consent to respecting people’s boundaries, it is not just a free for all.
Do You Have a Fetish?
As you can see, some of the most common fetishes are actually quite mild. Role playing is a great way to dip your toes into something a little different. But with the proper communication, there’s no reason you can’t safely try anal sex or impact play.
From introducing toys to using rope, check out our 4 Kinky Sex Ideas for more great ideas on how to spice things up in the bedroom.