How to Add a Vibrator to Your Love Life

Stop letting cultural taboos stop you from enjoying a vibrator in the bedroom. People may not openly admit to using a vibrator, but over half of American women use one, and at least 76 million Americans own one.

Vibrators are one of the most popular sex toys because they are one of the most versatile. They are the perfect sex toys for couples and individuals. So, open up to your partner, head to your local adult store, and find the best vibrator to add to your love life.

Communication

There is no denying that open communication is a must for a positive and healthy love life. While these types of conversations can get awkward, you can be ready for it. Stay calm, open, and honest about your feelings and desires.

Express why you want to bring a vibrator into your love life. Try to be specific about your intentions. Explain what it is about vibrators that entices you.

Perhaps you want to spice up your love life. Maybe you want your partner to watch you. You could also want your partner to use it on you.

Have Patience

You don’t have to have one large conversation where you address everything at once. You could wait until the opportunity naturally presents itself.

You could be watching a show where a vibrator makes an appearance. You could be in a store that has one. Maybe there is a magazine ad that alludes to them.

Try addressing different aspects of the topic throughout multiple conversations. One conversation could be about the various vibrator myths. Another could be about your past vibrator experiences.

Offer Reassurance

People have different opinions and ideas about sex. This can result in different reactions when new topics or concepts are introduced. If your partner has concerns about your satisfaction, they may need reassurance.

Offer comfort that introducing a vibrator is not about your lack of satisfaction. Instead, it is about your quest to heighten your experiences and pleasure. Using toys should enhance your sex life.

Buy One Together

Go shopping together to pick out a vibrator. People tend to feel more comfortable with an idea if they have a sense of control over the situation. Being involved in the shopping lets them have a say in the choice.

It also becomes “our” vibrator instead of “my” or “your” vibrator. As a couple’s toy, it is more approachable and less threatening. You can now connect over it instead of feeling like it is a single person’s territory.

However, be aware that the numerous types of vibrators can quickly become overwhelming. Because you and your partner are new to using vibrators together, keep things simple and user-friendly. The fewer variables to contend with, the easier it will be to focus on intimacy and pleasure.

Look for a vibrator that is visually appealing and functionally reliable. It should be 100% waterproof and made from body-safe silicone.

For sex toy newbies, you may also want to consider choosing a toy on the smaller side and not too realistic-looking.

Start Slow With Foreplay

Kinky foreplay is a great way to introduce new toys while unlocking maximum satisfaction. It allows your partner to dip a toe in without committing to an entire experience that involves a vibrator.

Introduce the vibrator during foreplay by turning it on low. Hold it against different areas of your body and theirs. Then, gradually move to more erogenous zones.

When you both are turned on and ready for more, you can put the vibrator aside. Let your partner control how involved the vibrator is.

Demonstrate

One approach that can help your partner feel more comfortable and confident is demonstrating how to use the vibrator. Turn this into a fun and sexy experience where you put on a show for your partner.

Go slow, and show them how you like using the vibrator on yourself. Don’t be afraid to communicate why something feels good.

Experiment

When your partner is ready, hand over the vibrator and let them experiment. While you may know your body, your partner may discover something you haven’t.

Let your partner move at a pace they are comfortable with. Your first time experimenting, they may only go so far.

Then, the next time they go a little further. In time, they will get more comfortable and experiment more.

Upgrade Eventually

Once you get comfortable with a simple vibrator, you can upgrade to one with more features. Instead of one speed setting, it could have multiple. Or it could have multiple pulse settings that create different vibration patterns.

High-end vibrators can come with multiple vibration centers for stimulating multiple areas of the body at once. Others come with an associated app for your partner to control.

You may also want to upgrade the size of your vibrator. Large or realistic-looking vibrators can create new sensations. As your partner gets more comfortable, they may be more open to trying these vibrator types.

Be Open to Your Partner’s Wishes

If your partner is open to trying out a vibrator, you need to return the favor. Listen to your partner about what they enjoy. If they have something they want to experiment with, be open to it.

You can work together to enhance your love life by openly communicating your desires and interests.

Have Fun

Your love life and bedroom activities should be fun. Introducing a vibrator should be an enjoyable experience. Don’t get so wrapped up in it all that you forget to enjoy yourself and have fun.

Don’t let mishaps or false starts sabotage your efforts. Laughter can be sexy.

Visit an Adult Store in Dallas

If you are ready to add a vibrator to your love life, then it’s time to have a conversation with your partner. Once you two are ready, your next step is to visit a New Fine Arts adult store in the Dallas area. Our extensive inventory of vibrators will give you plenty of options to find the perfect addition to your love life.

Locate which of our 3 locations is closest to you and let our helpful staff find the perfect vibrator for you and your significant other.